So, I’m Outta Matzo Crackers… I’m Back Baby!

I’ve had over 3 weeks off! And it’s been kind of awesome truth be told. No more worrying about taking pictures of stuff before using it, no more stressing about PR-it’s been NICE to not have to “BE” a Beauty Blogger!

I’ve eaten all my matzo crackers(gotta get more dang it), and been to California and back in my time off. Marky is home for Christmas! She’s been sick poor red-headed thing… BUT I’ve been able to play mama the last few days again and am LOVING it. But most importantly, I’ve had time to think about this beauty blogging business.

I won’t quit. I can’t. There’s so few of us bloggers left these days that tell the truth. I’m telling you, it’s hard. And I don’t want to point fingers at the people who’s don’t. I mean, sure I get that we’re all different and that some things that don’t work for me MIGHT just MIGHT work for others. But when the general consensus about a product is that it SUCKS??? Yet you still love it? I’m sorry, but I just can’t anymore. You don’t blog for the people anymore, you blog for the BRAND. And that’s not blogging anymore. That’s being a magazine. And I don’t want to be like that.

I’m at the point where I don’t want to say YES to every Tom, Dick and Harry brand out there. I don’t NEED more stuff to be honest. I abhor hoarding. My mom was a bit of a hoarder, and I do not want to be that nope no way no how. I won’t be saying yes to get products just for the sake of GETTING products anymore. I really REALLY don’t like that part of blogging, and what it turns us into. Seriously, it’s ludicrous. I don’t need 15 bottles of shampoo sitting around even though I can’t use them but HEY–It’s free stuff???!!!! Screw that. I’m so, so tired of That Beauty Blogging GREED. It just has to stop. NO AMOUNT OF FREE STUFF IS GOING TO FILL THAT VOID, THAT SADNESS, THAT NEED for whatever your heart is craving. This is what I’ve learned in the last 5 years of blogging. I want no part of that anymore. Done like dinner I am.

I will only work with brands I LOVE. Brands I TRUST. Brands that don’t pressure me every other day to post. Brands that respect me, just like I respect them. It’s a two way street that blogger/PR relationship and I wish a lot of PR would recognize that. I’ve had a couple of PR actually support me in my hiatus-and I love that. I’m not kidding- A couple of brands actually emailed me and said they were PROUD of me for sticking to my guns. THEY ACTUALLY READ MY POST. Like hello?? PR that really READ blogs? LOVE them-and you want to know who they were? VICHY. And AVENE. Yup. I love those PR ladies and brands to pieces. Blogging isn’t a full time job for me-it’s a HOBBY. And hobbies are supposed to be something you love doing. And I want to keep it that way, and thanks to understanding PRs, that’s what it’s going to stay like for me.

So, what does all this mean Tracy? Things are gonna change around here yessiree. But for the BETTER. Because what you see and read about here on Beauty Reflections will only be the things I truly do use and LOVE. Things that will be worth MY TIME. AND YOURS. And I might be blogging more for people MY age. Yeah, I know that might be a bummer for some of you. But I’m telling you that this aging thing REALLY brings new beauty challenges to the forefront. So, expect a few more OLDER beauty related posts around here. Those of you who read my blog and are my age know what I’m talking about…Hot flashes and makeup DO NOT make a good mix. BUT as a beauty addicted junkie you know I’ve been searching for the things that DO work for me during this hot and flashy time of life! So if you’re going through the same things as I am then HAPPY DAYS! I’m here to help. πŸ˜€

But that doesn’t mean you won’t see some new and trendy makeup on here! Or a snarky negative review. Because you will. Oh, YES YOU WILL. I’ll still be buying things, and sometimes even the brands I love come out with duds. Hey, nobody is perfect! And I’ll be sure to tell you if anything I try is a dud. Cross my heart. Me and snark are one. United for all time. We can’t be broken. Once you’ve crossed over to the Snarky Side, there’s no going back… πŸ˜› Plus, I love wine. I do. And there’s nothing like a glass or two of wine to bring out that Tracy snark!

BUT…I won’t be blogging EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. I can’t anymore. The daily pace is something I just can’t keep up with now. LIFE IS TOO SHORT TO WORRY ABOUT BLOGGING FOR FREE STUFF. Yup. That’s the biggest truth I’ve learned in the last 3 weeks off. And I’m okay with that. I am. I’ve said it before, and I’ll say it again-makeup and skincare don’t pay the bills yo’.

I hope this is ok with all of you! There’s a couple of things I’ve tried over my little break that I think are FANTASTIC. So, I’ll try to get those posts up as soon as I can. Not like there’s really any hurry, because LORDY if you still have Christmas shopping to do then GOOD LUCK TO YOU my friend. I won’t even set foot into a mall here in Edmonton this month, so I can’t even imagine what lunacy you have to deal with in cities bigger than mine if you still have to shop.

CHEERS my friends! And I hope you missed me as much as I missed you!

P.S. And THANK YOU so much for all of your support and comments on my last post. I can’t tell you how much LOVE I have for all of you!

xo Tracy

  • rachlovespenguins

    Welcome back, lovely. Looking forward to the snark. <3

  • Liz

    Dinner was delicious! More please. πŸ˜‰

    This is the best thing I’ve read in ages and I’m happy to see you back rejuvenated! The great thing about having a blog is doing what you bloody please with it. Never was on board with whether it should be done a certain way or not — they just are, the way that people are. And yep, I’d love to hear more about aging. I don’t see why that’s offputting in any way. I’m inching closer to 40 and don’t need teenagers telling me what to put on my skin. And all the way there with you about working with PRs and brands that respect what we do. I’m done with a handful of brands as well and it feels really good.

    • LOL hahahaha YUMMMM.

      Thanks! xo It feels good to finally put my foot down and NOT follow the crowds anymore.

  • Yay not only are you back but you sound really committed to make it work for you. I totally agree with your point on the difference between blogs and magazines and so many have lost their way entirely that their opinion is no longer relevant to me.

  • Yay for being back, Tracy! I’m glad you had a hiatus and sorted out what you really want to do with the blog. I have recently been SHOCKED and HORRIFIED by a big blogger professing her love for an item that everybody else hates and is flat-out impossible to use, so I get what you mean. That’s really not the way to go! Looking forward to all the honest reviews you’ll be bringing into the blogosphere! xx

    • Thanks Sunny!
      Sigh-right? The big bloggers in my eyes-at least most of them-I just don’t trust anymore. I think a lot of them get sponsored by the brands as well, so for them makeup does pay the bills. BUT like I said-that’s not blogging anymore. You are a magazine.

      • Lily

        I have a feeling I know who it is but not sure? But I have a strong feeling I’m right…


  • Great to see you back! This is such an important sentiment and one that I want to guide me in the new year as well. Getting free products can initially be so exciting, but reviewing them (an sometimes dishonestly so) out of a sense of obligation isn’t what blogging should be!

  • So happy to see this post! That is amazing that Avene and Vichy read your post and reached out to you. At the end of the day, being good people is what matters most and those PR people are embodying that. I’d love to see posts related to your personal aging experience – we’re ALL going to get there, so it would be nice to be equipped! Plus I’m sure all of us have a friend or family member who might be going through the very same thing and could benefit greatly from reading your advice! Tell Marky I said GET WELL SOON! Sending you lots of Christmas lurve! πŸ˜€

  • Bailey_AlltheWords

    This is amazing, and something I think everyone blogging should read. With a new year rolling in soon, I’ve been thinking about how I’ve been going about things and the changes I’ll be making to get back to why I started blogging in the first place- a love of the products. Maybe the overly pushy PR people could do the same?! πŸ˜€ Merry Christmas to you and yours and I look forward to the new, improved (and always amazing) Beauty Reflections!

  • Shannon

    Glad you are back! Who else is going to tell me the straight goods on Marc Jacobs Twinkle Pop’s…

    • LOL hahahaha thanks! I’ve looked at those too…but I’m scared to get one because of my oily lids!

  • Thanks Annette! xo I really appreciate it!

  • Thank you! xo

  • Dear Tracy, your back! Smooches! πŸ˜€
    You are saying a lot of things for us. So thank you for that!
    And I will look forward to all the positive changes around here. Good luck! <3

  • She’s back, baby… YEAAA!
    Always good to take a break and get a fresh perspective. I think your last post has inspired quite a few people to take a step back and focus on what they love. Excited to read some snark, I love me some snark!

  • Jayne

    Welcome back!
    I’m so glad you said something. You are my “western Canadian celebrity beauty blogger” so I am almost relieved that you dedicated a post to those who say “yes to everything” as well as the PR stress. There is so much more I could say, but it’s 1am so we all know nothing good happens after midnight! I just want to say thank you for writing, whatever the content, and I look forward to your new blog direction for 2015!

  • So happy to have you back! And I’m happy that your hiatus brought you some clarity. I totally understand that you want to take a fresh new more care-free approach to blogging. Blogging should be FUN! It shouldn’t feel like a chore. It seems like nowadays everyone and their cat has a beauty blog and I agree with you that a lot of bloggers are not being genuine. You can just tell. But hey, they have their freebies, so ‘s all good right? I’m glad that you refuse to be like that and are just doing your thing.

  • I love you, Tracy. I am happy you are back and I totally, 100% am with you on your post. I have had a similar revelation myself and only just came back myself. What I love about your approach to blogging is that I truly hear your voice — there are so many blogs out there that post the same thing about the same event or same product launch and more and more I feel like I don’t ‘hear’ those bloggers own voices anymore. I started to feel disillusioned by it all. But like you, I love this space too much to leave it. I am glad we can be in it together my friend! xo

  • yay tracy! i think you’ve again said what’s on the minds of most bloggers.

    • Eyeshadow Addict

      Hear, hear!

  • VancouverChic

    Glad you are back. I love your principles. I am very pleased with your decision. That truly is what blogging is all about, telling the truth about products. They either work or they don’t right?!!! Thrilled you will be doing posts on products for us over 40 hot ladies! Most of all I’m really glad you are just you and you are Canadian!!!! Canadian women rock!!!

  • I already told you what I think πŸ˜‰ So happy to see you back! And yes, we absolutely need your honesty and your humour. (See, I’m Canadian! :P)

  • Lily

    Welcome back beautiful! You sound more positive and energetic. Probably the fact that Marky’s home for Christmas? LOL! And yay to principals, UGH to certain PRs. There are still PRs who can’t get my name right, and I just ignore them. Then there are those who read my posts even it’s unrelated to their brand and I’m so impressed! So I totally know what you mean.
    I debated whether or not to continue blogging with Ashton here, but since I’m not working, I can still find some time. Furthermore, I love blogging and you and a few others (note I’m not saying everyone in the community. LOL)! Again, glad you’re back, and I need to be online more!

    • Thanks my dear friend! I appreciate that so MUCH.
      Partly yes! We haven’t left the house much as we are both sick, but it feels so GOOD having my red head BACK.
      I love you too! And you and my other dear friends were another reason to keep on plugging aways as well. AND YES. You do! Just remember THIS: GOATS.

  • Ginn Marie

    Welcome back! I’ve missed you! By the way..I love your voice. Blogging should be fun. I blog too, and I’m a newbie. I legit have like 30 followers..but u know what ? Honestly it doesn’t bother me. I blog for me, and you should blog for you. Blogging shouldn’t be a chore. Those who love you will read your blog of you post 4x a week. Or once a week.

    Glad you’re back !

    • Awww, thanks lovely! That means a lot to me!
      Keep blogging for you! You got it right!

  • Welcome back! You’ve been missed.

    Agree with you on the shopping centres. I was at Southgate on Friday and it was the busiest I’ve seen it in a while. Take care!

  • I love this post! Well said and welcome back!!

  • Eyeshadow Addict

    Love this post, and I loved your last one! Welcome back!

  • Eyeshadow Addict

    P.S. Right before reading your last post, I had literally just read the “Gifts for your BFF” post you *seemed* to reference. I laughed when I saw your post. Because you were so right.

    Power to the hobby bloggers, yes? πŸ™‚ Merry Christmas!

  • Angela

    Welcome back, Tracy! I’m glad you’ve been shown support and encouragement to do what’s right for you. Beauty/ skincare is fun and I love reading your snark even if I don’t rush out and get the product (though I’ll admit I did once or twice in the past). I thank you SO MUCH for staying true to us, your faithful readers – I certainly respect your opinion and I know when you write it, it’s because you honestly mean it. I have come to despise the magazines’ “tried and tested” because everything always gets a glowing review (oh and by the way, the next page is an advert for the very same brand! What a coincidence!!!). Merry Christmas to you and a very happy new year πŸ™‚ PS I just finished my last little tidbits of shopping this morning – bless you, Walmart Leduc for opening at 7:30 instead of 8AM.

    • Thanks Angela!! That means A LOT to me and I appreciate your support so much! I hope you had a lovely Christmas! And Happy New Year!

  • Welcome back, Tracy! So glad to see your post in my feed again πŸ™‚
    Loved every single word of what you have written here. You’re right, there are so many bloggers right now who blog for the brand and not the reader. What a great way to put it! And blogging every day? I don’t know how people do it. I tried this monthβ€”it’s NOT worth it, it’s too much work, and I think I kind of freaked my readers out a bit haha I’m very excited to see “older” posts. There is a void when it comes to realistic blogging that needs to be filled. Though I may not be in the same age group as you yet, trust me, as a 29 year old I still feel a bit left out when it comes to the mass of teen/early 20s blogs out there.
    Basically, what I’m saying is: good to have you back!
    Happy holidays!

    • Thank you Marianna!!
      Yeah, I have to slow down to keep my sanity! I can’t anymore. Part of the reason is that everything is just getting to be so much of the same old, same old. And right? I’m sorry, but if a 22 year old is reviewing a wrinkle cream???? I AIN’T READING.

      • Seriously! My favorite is when people say that if they start using wrinkle creams at 20 they will look the same when they’re 40-50. What?! Alright then…

      • HAHAHAHA OMG they’re gonna be in for some FUN. It won’t happen! Good luck with that hahaha. What helps? Staying OUT of the sun. That helps. LOTS. The rest is just fluff.

      • Exactly! And don’t get me started on the fact that aging is apparently the enemy. Who came up with that?! Am I the only person who doesn’t care about wrinkles? I want to look like Judy Dench when I grow up.

      • LOL HAHAHAHA ok, me too! I wanna look like her too! And embroider swear pillows like she does! Have you seen her hobby-It’s fantastic!

      • I didn’t know! That’s AWESOME! I love her even more now πŸ™‚

  • Toya

    I love you. Seriously, I do! Stick to your damn guns girl! I’m so proud of you and your stance, and you’re saying things that totally resonate with me. I don’t even get too many PR samples and even I get overwhelmed sometimes with the expectation! So I can only imagine how it must be for you. Do what you damn well please….but I sure am glad you’re not gone for good, because a good wine-fueled snark post is one of my favourite things EVER πŸ˜€

    • LOVE YOU!! πŸ™‚ And yup! I’m doing what I want to do from now on. Here’s to more wine and snarky posts in 2015!

  • Hey! That’s the same reason I stopped blogging – the joy was gone and it was becoming too PR driven. At first, it was about getting recognition from these brands and soon after it became not too fun. It become a routine – get parcels, write about them. Soon, I started to lose interest in blogging and had hoarded tonnes of crap that was not needed in the first place. Now I think I am back to blogging too – I just don’t want to do it out of compulsion. The brands you have stuck with me during my hiatus are the only ones that are worth keeping for me. Happy you feel the same way πŸ™‚ x

  • I know the feeling, it was astounding how much stuff lands on your doorstep but you turn into this huge blogging machine.. come home, eat and then blog all the time. Takes the joy out of real life completely and for what?? It doesn’t pay the bills! I only work with a few of my favorite brands now, sorry but the rest can only get in if I’m REALLY interested in a launch. Writing about it just to get it.. no thanks. Too much stress having to worry about deadlines, trying it out and the blogging process. Take a step back and rediscover what you like really or you’ll end up hating it all. I do 3 posts a week and that’s more than enough πŸ™‚

    • EXACTLY. And that’s what I’m doing-stepping back, working only with brands that I truly love, and no more deadlines and BS anymore. And blogging what I want to blog about and less posts too-it’s my blog! And I’m taking it back haha!

  • It feels weird saying welcome back as I’ve just gotten here – but I had to subscribe after reading this post! πŸ™‚ Looking forward to what you have in store for us!